I purchased your eBook, Motivating Kids, and am thoroughly engrossed in the first chapters up to motivation, mainly, for myself first. I think I need to attend to my captain and crew relationship first (and throttle max) before I can attempt to relay these points to my kids.
Your reference of parents as life coaches resonated with me and made me see parenting in a totally new light so I know this will help me greatly in implementing a new approach to my skills as a parent. I have a long way to go, which feels very daunting right now, but I've resolved to get on top of my issues, i.e. get happy, and pass this on to my kids.
Melissa O., Mother of a 15-year-old teen, Sunshine Coast , QLD, Australia
When parents think about their vision of their children's future, it often includes some variation of the parent's own definition of "success". So when parents say that their children "lack motivation", it may be because the parent is pushing the child in a direction that doesn't match where the child wishes to go.
Ronit Baras has written a wonderful new book, Motivating Kids. It is filled with warmth, wisdom and emotional intelligence skill-building tools. Motivating Kids helps parents become motivating coaches whose #1 goal is to help the child do the things they want to do, not what the parents want.
After all, who's life is it anyway?
Annie Fox, M.Ed. author, Teaching Kids to Be Good People http://anniefox.com
Does parenting feel hard? Feel like sometimes you are banging your head against a wall? It could be that the techniques you once thought were effective in raising children are actually part of the problem.
Ronit Baras gives us the parenting bible we all wished we'd had - Motivating Kids! We often wish our children would "just listen, or "do as I say", but it turns out the best lessons come from direct experiencing supported by those that love us.
My parents would often say, "I don't want my kids to go through what I went through", but if we think about it a little, this statement is counter-productive. Their experiences - what they went through - is what made them the people they are today.
What they really mean is, "I want it to be easier for my kids", and it can be when you have the right tools to support them. Ronit, in her book, gives us these tools!
Ronit's style of writing is both personal, experiential and simply enlightening. Her unique book teaches the benefits of being an authoritative rather than authoritarian parent.
Is "the disciplinarian" really how you want your kids to remember you? In Motivating Kids, Ronit teaches us that motivating children means letting go of "golden oldies" like "discipline", "fear", "rewards" and "punishments" and focusing on "empowerment", "confidence", "cooperation" and "approval". It also outlines the importance of your own positive self-regard and confidence in the growth of your kids. Modelling forms an important part of your child's learning and this book helps you make sure you get that right!
Most importantly, it focuses on trust and how this is so important in a parent-child relationship if you want children to achieve and be self-motivators!
As a teacher, I use many of the techniques in this book with my students and as a parent, I do the same!
Ronit has provided trigger questions and subheadings for easy access and step by step instructions to ensure you maximize your children's motivation. This book is a must for anyone who wants their children to grow into positively self-regulating and motivating human beings!
Dr Tina Riveros, Bachelor Laws, Bachelor of Arts, Masters in Asian Studies, Grad Dip Ed (Sec), PHD in Counselling