To understand your parents’ love you must raise children yourself
Parenting is undoubtedly the most rewarding and, without parent coaching, also the most challenging adventure in a person’s life.
Remember the first hours of being a parent? The unconditional love you had for the tiny new creature that did nothing but eat, sleep and cry, coupled with the enormous burden of responsibility, from which there was no escape. That was the introduction to the most important task of your life – parenting. A bit overwhelming, wasn’t it? For some parents, it can even be scary because kids do not come with a manual.
Who can you turn to for parenting advice?
It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself
Parenting is one of the most fulfilling feelings in many people’s life and they compromise many of their career opportunities to give their kids what they perceive as happiness, joy and love. Somehow, parenting our children is the most responsible thing most of us ever do, yet we are doomed to experiment every day of our kids’ life, through trial and error, in search of the best parenting formula. Parenting has been going on since the beginning of humanity, but many parents still feel they must reinvent the wheel over and over again and count on some mysterious instincts they are supposed to have.
More often than not, parents have difficulties balancing their jobs, partners, relationships, financials and children. They also struggle to make do with whatever resources they have in order to meet their kids’ needs. This situation is reflected by their kids’ behaviour and state of mind, often causing unhappiness, frustration and self-doubt. Kids make parenting an even bigger challenge. Luckily, help is just around the corner.
“Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids” Better Parenting Skills Program
At Be Happy in LIFE, we believe that parenting is a learned skill. Unfortunately, as parents, we don’t learn it in a structured manner during our life. Therefore, we react to uncomfortable situations, rather than having a clear vision of our desired family life. If you ask any parent in the world what they want for their kids, they will say, “to be happy”. Happiness is, no doubt, the most valuable feeling we can give our kids. Yet, since being a role model is our greatest tool to pass on our beliefs to our kids, it will be very hard to pass on happiness until we are happy ourselves.
My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it
Clarence Budinton Kelland
We believe that when parents are happy with themselves and clear about their beliefs and values, this will be reflected by their children, like little mirrors. Equipped with a coaching mentality and simple but powerful parenting tools to balance life, parents report they see a huge improvement in their parenting abilities and in their kids.
There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings
For people to change, they need to find their strengths and use them to overcome challenges. Many times, it is the perception of the resources they have around them that will determine their strength in meeting these challenges. When parents feel confident, it reflects on their kids, and when they feel overwhelmed, confused, stressed and unhappy, it reflects on their kids similarly.
Just like the grownups in their life, children put enormous effort into changing their unhappy circumstances with the skills they have, but it leads them nowhere, because those skills (or the skills they are lacking) have brought them to this point in the first place.
Sadly, continuous failure to change their life make kids give up on success, on friendships, on hobbies and relationships with their siblings and their parents. With their limited life experience, they think that their circumstances determine their destiny.
But they do not!
This is where parenting comes in. If you have a feeling that your circumstances determine your destiny as well, keep reading, because living with an angry, unhappy, unsuccessful, depressed, frustrated, rebellious and disrespectful kid is not your destiny.
Having children makes you no more a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist
At Be Happy in LIFE, we think that with the right guidance and plenty of encouragement, kids can develop confidence, determination, resilience and strong emotional intelligence. Once kids have that intelligence, it becomes part of who they are, accompanies them for the rest of their life, can be easily used as a shield against pain and a guide towards happiness and success.
In the parenting program, we target your wellbeing as a parent, as well as your relationships with your kids, and focus on the connection between the two. This way, we allow your growth to inspire the growth of your kids without the need for them to attend the session.
Children Learn What They Live
- Dorothy Law Neite
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
If a child learns to feel shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.
We also believe it is not healthy for kids to go to any kind of therapy (unless it is absolutely necessary), because their subconscious perceives this as “something is wrong with me” and makes them think they need to be “fixed”. As our main focus in emotional intelligence, we do not think kids need to be fixed, they need to be guided. Working with thousands of kids around the world, we are convinced this belief is very unhealthy for them to have and we want to make sure it will not reside in their brain.
As the most important element in your kids social and life development, you are the best person to help your child. You are the person who will take care of your kid’s interests the most. Most of what you think, do or believe will be more meaningful to your kid than what any therapist will ever do. So we would rather give you the tools and help you do it because your impact of it will be much greater.
Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be
Some of the challenges in raising children are strongly related to the parenting model the parents received from their own parents. Most of the time, this relationship included beliefs that are unhealthy, irrelevant and unsuitable 20 to 30 years after they were introduced. Imagine you are using an old map to find your way in a city. Things have moved on and it is tough navigating that way.
But what if we gave you this year’s map? Better yet, what if you had, and could give your kids, a GPS with automatic map updates? Using old beliefs is like using an old map and 100% of the time, when we update the map and update the navigation tool, we change our life for the best. When we say 100%, we mean 100% of the time, without fail.
In our parent coaching program, Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids, you get an ‘emotional GPS’, which is updated with your personal circumstances, your personal beliefs, values, rules and needs. You get a ‘GPS’ that gets you to your destination fast and with clear instructions. In our program, you’ll learn to identify the source of your beliefs, assess their impact on our life, examine their validity and eliminates some of them if you think they are “unhealthy”. In their place, you choose new beliefs about parenting that will promote relationships of support, love and good communication, which are so important for parents to have with their kids.
Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry
On top of that, we will help you help your child with their navigating map. Consider this: when kids are young they learn how to navigate through life from their environment and the people around them. They develop certain habits and thoughts that were useful at the time when they learned them.
Unfortunately, not all habits or thoughts bring happiness and success in life and when faced with problems and conflicts, challenges and disappointments, your child may lack the ability to adopt and change. Life is forever changing and evolving and what was right for your child as a baby may no longer help them in different, future circumstances.
Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids is a future-focused parent coaching course for parents who want to break free from the common self fulfilling prophecy that “parenting kids is hard and that kids are terrible, cost a lot of money and are never grateful for what their parents do for them”. It is an excellent program for parents who feel they are blaming or justifying, understand that they only project their fears and anxieties on their kids, and are willing to take control over their own and their child’s well-being.
In Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids, parents learn how to coach themselves and their family towards positive thinking, self acceptance, appreciation, self confidence, success, love and caring. You’ll learn new skills, integrate them into your life and get the philosophy and the principles behind them in order call on them when needed even long after you have completed the parent coaching course. We will give you the tools to navigate your family with your ‘personal GPS’.
Never fear spoiling children by making them too happy. Happiness is the atmosphere in which all good affections grow
What Will Parent Coaching Be Like?
Be Happy in LIFE’s parenting program – Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids – was written by Ronit Baras, an international parenting expert specializing in emotional intelligence with 27 years of experience in teaching and presenting.
Ronit has coached thousands of parents and children from all around the world. She is the author of the motivational books Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers and In the Outback with Jasmine Banks. She has written over 1,000 articles for educational, parenting and health being magazines published around the world. Most of her articles are available on her blog, Family Matters, which focuses on parenting, education, emotional intelligence and personal development. She has 50,000 worldwide readers every month and considered the parenting expert with the most published articles on parenting in the world.
In this program, parents are introduced to many research-based time and stress-management techniques, the art of motivation, mind power, the science of human behaviour, meditation, the psychology of communication and relationship building. The program uses Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) methods to eliminate undesirable thinking patterns that create challenges in parents’ life and limit their success and happiness. NLP is very successful as it helps to deal with the subconscious mind. The life coach will teach parents to use every technique on themselves and those around them, making it easy for them to apply them whenever they feel their conscious and subconscious minds getting out of sync.
Stop trying to perfect your child, but keep trying to perfect your relationship with him
In the Be Happy in LIFE parent coaching program, parents learn assessment tools to discover where they are and where they are heading. Parents identify the source of their beliefs, recognise their impact on their life, examine their validity and eliminate them if they think they are “unhealthy” or not useful. In their place, parents will choose new beliefs that promote success, abundance, relationships, support, love and good communication and happiness. Parents update their “map” and upgrade to fast tracking devices that will get them to their destination faster. The program helps parents find strengths from within and teaches them how to stay strong and focused even if life is not happening exactly the way they want
“A+” in happy and successful parenting
Most parents cruise through life and react to uncomfortable situations, rather than having a clear vision of their desired family life and pursuing that vision. At Be Happy in LIFE, we believe that family matters and happiness is a learned skill that, unfortunately, we do not learn in school. We believe that starting early is essential and that everyone can be happy and we have the right lessons and the right teachers to teach happiness
Using our parent coaching program, you get an “A+” in happy and successful parenting. Parent coaching is a journey parents take on their quest for being happy and successful parents and to achieve their goals and dreams regarding their families. A life coach is someone who helps them take that journey and guides them through learning what they need to keep moving forward, stay on track and achieve success and happiness. In parent coaching, parents learn to understand themselves and establish good relationships with their partners and children.
The rules for parents are but three… love, limit, and let them be
Elaine M. Ward
It is very important to note that life coaching is a trendy name for something that has been around for many years – personal development. Every parent can highly benefit from growing and developing in the right direction since life is a constant process of growth and progress. Every parent has the potential of being happy and successful and personal development with the help of a life coach is an effective way of achieving that potential.
Life coaching is like a professional friendship that helps you achieve your parenting dreams and desires using your aspirations as a guide. The relationship between you and the life coach will determine the success of the program. The coach will study your personal circumstances, beliefs and values and adjust the program to your needs and goals. Whatever you want to achieve is okay and every desire you have is accepted as an honest one. The coach will help you find where you may be stuck and show you ways to get your life and your kids’ life flowing forward again.
Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.
The coach will be in contact with you between sessions, encourage you to practice their new tools and empower you to take small steps forward towards your goals’ achievement and success. Many parents, overwhelmed by obligations (“musts” and “shoulds”), blame others or their circumstances in order to be able to cope with their less-than-ideal situation. This is a trap, which only reinforces the situation and increases their feeling of being out of control.
At Be Happy in LIFE, we believe that when people are clear about what they want, they are able to focus and align their energy towards their goals and have a smooth ride. Our life coaching clients learn to dream big and want good things. It is like stepping into a magic zone, where many happy things happen to them and, like a ripple effect, influence all those around them. We believe that happiness is contagious!
I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it
Harry S. Truman
The Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching program, “Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids”, is a future oriented program. We do not focus on the past, we do not look for labels, we do not search for people or circumstances to blame for the unhappiness in life. Instead, parents assess their situation, dream, plan their journey and start moving forward.
Think of it as a driving course. If you drive looking at your rear-view mirror all the time, you will have lots of accidents, but if you look forward most of the time and only look back from time to time, you will arrive at the destination safely. Parents must understand that we all have pain from our past, and all parents experience heartache with their parenting but we can still succeed in life and be happy within ourselves and our parenting. We just need to look forward.
At every session we learn how to handle obstacles and setbacks, how to establish positive thinking and how to monitor growth with a new set of beliefs, values and rules to help us reach our goals quickly, while enjoying the journey along the way. The past in this program has no power to determine our future.
People’s emotional state can be in one of two places: Discovery or Recovery. If a parent is in Discovery, he/she is aware of what has happened in the past and are willing to make way for the new person they can be. If they are in Recovery, they cannot do that. They are blaming and angry and may need a help from a psychologist. For a person in recovery, parent coaching may be too demanding, because they see their emotions as part of their identity and they are not ready to let them go.
It is important for each person who considers using a life coach to examine this belief before taking the program. The coach’s task is to help the client look and move forward constantly, and if someone is not ready to move forward, this will only increase their frustration. You can trust your coach to let you know at the end of the first session if you are not suitable for program.
We are apt to forget that children watch examples better than they listen to preaching
Roy L. Smith
Before you start the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching program, you will go through an online self-assessment that will help you and your coach determine if this program is suitable for you. We found 5 advantages to our assessment procedure:
- Completing the assessment allows your coach to learn about you, which otherwise will require you to pay for the session and share it with your coach.
- It allows the coach to tailor the right program for you based on your answers.
- In some cases, it allows your coach to determine if you are in recovery or discovery and let you know before you pay for your first session whether the program will be suitable for you or not
- The information in the assessment done online will be used on the second session to cover communication styles and save you time doing it with a pen and paper and calculating your results, which takes about 30 minute.
- We found that the act of completing this self-assessment makes people clearer about their expectations from the parenting class. Those who complete it are better prepared for their first session.
Integration is an essential ingredient for the success in this program. Have you even been to a seminar, read a book or learned something that was very exciting and had it fade away? We structure our program for full integration of what is learned back into everyday life, so that it never fades. During every session, parents will apply their new knowledge. They will face the hard questions and answer them (with their coach’s guidance). They will document their success in a journal and will develop a new and empowering routine. Most importantly, they will choose some challenging actions to take in-between sessions, which will get them, step by step, from where they start to being who they want to be.
One needs courage to say “I am not the ‘me’ I want to be”
There are two main formats for parent coaching: Free Flow and Structured. In a free flow session, you discuss with your coach any area that you feel or think needs adjusting. At the end of the session, you will be able to come up with a list of action steps that will help you move forward towards a very happy and successful family. Structured coaching follows a written program, which the parent and the coach use during the session, and they can use after the session and keep referring to whenever they need a reminder.
We choose to present a written program because we believe that reinforcement, following up activities and the ability to reflect on parent coaching sessions are the best ways to make sure parents do not fall back into old thoughts and habits. We have clients who finished their programs years ago and we can still refer them to sessions in their parent coaching “manual” to overcome new challenges. Sometimes when they call with a new problem, we refer them to the manual and ask them to go through an activity from the manual with the new challenge before we schedule them a new session.
We also find that helping our clients adopt a life coaching mentality contributes to their success even long after they have finished their parent coaching with us. This is especially valid when we discuss parenting and teaching as they are asked to use those skills on an everyday basis.
The programs we present are about empowering people to help themselves.
There is always a moment in childhood when the door opens and lets the future in
At Be Happy in LIFE, we do not believe that one size fits all. We are all individuals and what suits one person does not necessarily suit others. Completing the online self-assessment will help tailor the program to your needs and preferences. During every session, you will also have a chance to discuss the approach and style that suits your situation best.
Our goal is actually to help parents finish their parent coaching as soon as possible. Being in continuous therapy only reinforces the thought “Something is wrong with me as a parent”. Parents always do the best they can with what they have and they do not need fixing, they need guidance, confidence and empowerment.
Some parents reach their goals after 3 or 4 sessions and there is no reason for them to continue with their parent coaching. We encourage our clients to finish their program as soon as possible and celebrate their success. Over the last 27 years we have collected the 5 most effective sessions that make the most impact on people’s lives. Our parenting program consists of 5 sessions:
- Positive language (positive focus)
- Communication styles
- Love languages
- Rules & boundaries
Each session separately, has the potential of changing families for the better, so you can finish once you reach the results you want.
It is better to bind your children to you by a feeling of respect and by gentleness than by fear
We deliver sessions in three formats:
- 5 sessions – one on one ( face to face , by Skype or by email)
- Full day parenting class – one on one, when you cover the whole program in one day.
- Full day parenting class in a group, when you cover the whole program in one day with other participants.
Parent Coaching in 5 Sessions
Your coach will get to know you, help you find where your communication with your kids may be stuck, where you may be sending confusing messages, and show you ways to create certainty and harmony at home. To help parents stay motivated and incorporate their learning into their daily life, we have designed the one on one program to increase the gaps between the sessions gradually.
- The gap between sessions 1 and 2 is typically 2 weeks
- The gap between sessions 2 and 3 is typically 3 weeks
- The gap between sessions 3 and 4 is typically 4 weeks
It can take about 3-4 months to complete 5 sessions. Even clients who want to speed up the process and meet every week end up extending the gaps between the sessions as they feel more empowered. We believe this is a healthy process and a sign of growth, independence and confidence. Around session 4, we encourage our clients to take control over their growth and development and determine how frequently they would like to meet.
Your coach will always be available by email or phone to discuss the best time to meet next. If things happen between sessions and you need to see you life coach earlier, you can get in contact and re-schedule the session to suit your needs.
To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today
Many coaching practices require clients’ commitment by charging for sessions in advance. This is against our values and against what we believe parent coaching is all about. Parent coaching is meant to give clients a sense of control over their life and designed to ease the pressure. If parents pay ahead and use this to “force” themselves to attend the sessions to justify the expense, it defeats the purpose of being responsible and happy.
This is why we have a “pay as you” go philosophy. At the end of every session, you pay for the session and make a decision whether you wish to continue. We want you to schedule the following session, only if you believe you will benefit from it. This way, you have the freedom to finish your parent coaching whenever you want.
If you like, the life coach will stay in contact with you long after you finish the program. We still have regular contact with clients who used our programs over 25 years ago.
Parent Coaching on Skype
The personal parent coaching session by Skype is done the same way as by face to face and it allows us to coach people who are very far from Brisbane, Australia. Your life coach will email you session documents with information about new skills and work sheets ahead of time and you will schedule time that suits both of you to go over the material and activities together.
For this parent coaching option, you will need an Internet connection and a Skype account, which can be obtained free of charge. Overseas clients can highly benefit from this option.
Parent Coaching by Email
Your life coach will email you session documents with information about new skills and work sheets for you to work through. You will read the material, complete the exercises and email them back to your life coach, along with any questions you may have, which your life coach will answer personally. Please note: there is no automatically-generated program for the email sessions. Each email you receive will be tailored to your needs and progress.
For this parent coaching option, you will need an email account and reasonable typing skills to allow you to write your answers freely. This is the best option if you want more time and you are comfortable interacting by email. Email parent coaching also allows you to work “offline”, whenever you have time and energy, so it is the most flexible scheduling option, although it requires more time.
A father is someone who carries pictures where his money used to be
Full Day Parenting Class Just for You
In this format, we cover the whole 5 sessions in one day. You can do it on your own or with your partner. In some situations, we have presented the program to three people who parented the same children. The advantage of this format is to save time. Many people who are short on time, live far away from Brisbane, Australia, or are limited in time due to studying or require a certificate of attendance as part of the court requirement can get lots of tips and tools in a very short time.
We pride ourselves for giving parents tools that work immediately. We have endless stories of clients who send an email or call, within hours of finishing the full day parenting class sharing immediate successes. It is very important to note that the disadvantage of this format is the limited integration time, though all clients going through the full day parenting class – one on one or in a group – have one month of email support to clarify any topic they need help with.
All children behave as well as they are treated
Full Day Parenting Class in a Group
Our full day parenting class in a group is one of the highlights of our parenting program formats. We usually limit the parenting class to 25 participants, which gives us the right balance between sharing and learning. Group parenting classes give parents the opportunity to experience coaching with other parents in a friendly atmosphere. It also creates an opportunity to learn from, and interact with other parents in similar situations and form friendships with them. There are 3 main advantages of the full day parenting classes for groups:
- Learn from others – Participating in a parenting class with other parents can give an amazing perspective on parenting. Spending a day with other parents and finding out how each of us react differently to different parenting challenges , and still be successful, can be very empowering. Most of our parenting class participants write that “listening and interacting with other parents” contributed greatly to their enjoyment and gain from the program.
- Save time – Parents that are short in time, live far away from Brisbane, Australia, are limited in time due to studying or require a certificate of attendance as part of the court requirement, can get lots of tips and tools in a very short time.
- Save money – Group parent coaching is a cheaper option and ends up being third of the amount paid individually.
The best way to make children good is to make them happy
Please note that the disadvantages of this format are:
- Lack of integration time. Group parenting classes cover a lot of information in one day and it may be overwhelming and difficult to insert and maintain the things you learn into your parenting.
- Since the program covers the 5 main parenting sessions, we have to limit our hands on activities based on the amount of people attending. Participants and organisations that have run the program in the past express the importance of each section of the program and some organisations book the program for a few days to gain the most benefit from the program in a group.
- The parenting classes are conducted by bookings only and participants must be associated with the booking organisation and book in advance. Over the years we have tried connecting individual requests with organisations but were not very successful. Most organisers find tremendous value in our ability to form a bond between the participants and they do not like “outsiders”.
We get request from schools, early childhood centres, teachers’ organisations and non- profit organisations from all over the world and we have also run the program for groups of parents who organise themselves in a group.
The child of a tiger is a tiger
What do parents get from the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching Program?
As you would expect, everyone wants something different and everyone’s results are different. We can confidently say that going through the Be Happy in LIFE parent coaching programs gives participants a . Each of the benefits in itself can change your life from blaming to responsibility, from conflict to caring, from depression to motivation, from confusion to clarity, from failure to success and from misery to happiness. Coaching with us can give you (and maybe you kids as well) any or all of the following benefits:
A great sense of achievement
All our clients believe they have achieved something during their parent coaching program. Keeping in touch with parents years after they finished their coaching (the first parents started the programs 24 years ago) proved to us that their achievements last a lifetime and often have a positive effect on many other people and aspects of their life.
Good time management skills and coordination
Parents with time management challenges report that they are more efficient and make better use of their time. This usually has a direct impact on their parenting and results in a sense of control over their life.
A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for
More free time for yourself and for enjoyment
Better time management always results in more free time to have fun, spend with family and friends, travel, pursue hobbies and even relax and enjoy reading a good book.
A positive outlook on life
As this program is about helping people achieve happiness, our clients develop a positive outlook on life, which is essential for being role models for positiveness. Since what we focus on grows, this positive outlook brings a lot more positives into our clients’ lives.
More self-confidence as an individual and a parent
Parent coaching builds self-confidence by being a positive experience, being a success experience and by working directly on the way you perceive yourself. At the end of their coaching, parents feel worthy, empowered and unstoppable, which is exactly what they need in order to be fantastic parents.
Confusion is a big part of raising kids. Many parents will tell you that life happens to them and they do not know what needs to be changed. Parent coaching teaches parents how to discover what is important to them and how to get it.
Initially, many of parents feel a lack of energy and find it hard to cope with their daily life, not to mention pursue their dreams. Anxiety, fear and stress often drain them of their power. Supported by better energy management and positive emotional state clients should feel an increase in energy.
Although we may not like to admit it, money can buy happiness. Most parents feel they don’t have enough money and use it to justify much of their misery. The skills and tools in the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching Program help them increase their value, earn more or manage what they already have and set them to be one of the small percentages of our society which will be financially stable.
Praise your children openly, reprehend them secretly
A good understanding of yourself and your feelings
Let’s face it, most of our problems in life are either with ourselves or with others. We are emotional beings and understanding our feelings and our behaviour is essential for any change to take place. In teen years, the search for our identity starts and most teenagers feel confused and overwhelmed. Their attempt to understand and express themselves seems awkward and is a source of many conflicts between them and the world around them. Usually, when they become adults or parents themselves, they carry the same beliefs that limit them in life. Understanding yourself and yourself can be the key to success.
Useful techniques for managing emotions
Being a course in emotional intelligence, a key idea behind the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching Program is that everyone can learn simple, effective methods to recognise and manage emotions quickly and effectively. All of these techniques have been thoroughly researched and perfected by the great psychologists and human behaviour professionals and we believe this information needs to be available to all. We have adjusted the techniques to any possible level and are very proud to make it available to all regardless of age, gender, faith, culture or ability. This is why we also publish free articles with tips and advice on being happy (you are welcome to subscribe to get them by email).
Appreciation for the change process, not just the outcome
Many parents think that happiness is a destination. The say “I will be happy when my kids will be…” In the program, they come to realise that happiness and “only when” do not go hand in hand. Happiness is easy to reach and all of our clients complete the program thinking, “I can be happy all the way to my goal” and “My kids don’t have to be anything for me to be happy”. Happiness is a state of mind; we want parents to adopt this state of mind so it will reflect on their parenting and give a message of unconditional love and happiness.
A good understanding of communication styles for better relationships
As part of our session on human behaviour, our clients learn about communication styles. Parents learn to understand their own, their partners and children’s preferred communication channel and learn to navigate different styles of communication without friction and conflict setting them up for a better future with excellent communication skills. We pride ourselves on bringing 26 years of experience in dealing with different communication styles into this program, for mending many broken hearts and for inspiring excellence.
A good understanding of love languages and how to use them in parenting
Many conflicts of parents have with those around them (own parents, siblings, partners, kids…) are results of their basic desire to be loved. In the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching Program “Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids”, they learn about the differences between people’s love languages and how to use this knowledge to improve communication. This session brings our parent clients closer to their parents, siblings, partners, kids, family members, friends, colleagues and themselves.
The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them
Frank A. Clark
A positive outlook on relationships and other people
Relationships are essential to success, health and wealth. All our parent coaching clients improve their relationships with their children, develop their human interaction skills and sort out issues with own family members, friends and colleagues. When this load is off their chest, they are free to move forward faster and relationships become a great source of support and joy.
Good stress management skills
Stress is a big killer in our society and parents are under enormous pressure. Their inability to handle this pressure can be the source of conflicts in life. In the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching Program we teach proven techniques to identify stress agents and eliminate them in a calm and relaxed way.
Ability to spend time on personal development
As our Be Happy in LIFE parent coaching program is all about personal development, most parents attending our programs, consider it an investment their kids’ future. Parents finish the program understanding how personal development adds massive value to their personal life, their kids’ life and to their future. They appreciate the importance of taking care of themselves.
Better understanding and more acceptance of self and others
An important part of the Be Happy in LIFE parent coaching program, as an emotional intelligence program, is the ability to understand and accept yourself and others. Our parent coaching clients learn to work with the world around them, rather than aim to change or fight against it. There is a lot of calm and freedom in acceptance and forgiveness and during the process, a huge load is lifted and allows parents to move forward. We offer four different sessions dedicated to achieving this and most of our clients make the biggest changes after the first one.
Life coaching skills and a life coach mentality
In the program, we teach our clients life coaching techniques and incorporate activities to help develop a life coach mentality. At the end of their parent coaching, our clients, regardless of age, are able to coach those around them.
Better relationships with family and friends
With the ability to understand, accept and support others, with better communication skills and with a life coaching mentality, all our clients improve their relationships with family and friends. We have feedback forms from clients’ family (that we have never met) thanking us for the change we have facilitated in their family member.
Dear Ronit I know you don’t know me and convinced you have heard much about me as much as I have heard about you. I wanted to thank you for helping Sabrina overcome her post natal depression and giving me my wife back. I have known her for 10 years and have never seen her happy like this. Bless you! John, 37, Business man, husband of a client, Brisbane, Australia
Increased level of understanding and responsibility
When clients feel overwhelmed, unsuccessful, hurt and frustrated, many of them tend to blame others or circumstances for their problems. This only increases the sense of failure and prevents parents from moving forward. When we replace blaming and justifying with taking responsibility, there is a huge shift in mindset and the result is progress and success.
Creativity, flexibility, tolerance and love are natural states of mind and our purpose is to nurture them to full blossom
Ronit Baras (from the book “Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers”)
Internal drive (self motivation)
We live in a society that is motivated by money, social pressure, fashion, status and an endless need to be loved and accepted by those around us. Parents and their kids will do things to achieve these things, even if it means hurting themselves along the way. This is what we call “external motivation”, because we are guided by (perceived) pressure from others. We believe that successful and happy parents have full control over their life because they are internally motivated, allowing them to think clearly and function according to their own values and needs.
I talk and talk and talk, and I haven’t taught people in 50 years what my father taught by example in one week
Common things that prevent parents from getting a life coach
After reading what parents get from the Be Happy in LIFE Parent Coaching Program “Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids”, you may still be concerned about the investment of time and money that is required, you are not alone.
I don’t have enough money to pay for my sessions
We know that money is a resource that you work very hard for and it is not easy to invest this money. Research shows that parents spend lots more when their children are angry, frustrated, emotionally troubled, achieving low academically and showing disruptive behaviour. So, the money used to help yourself help your child will be used anyway. The question is only whether to spend it on setting yourself and your kids for a responsible, successful, happy and independent future or using it to repair issues that arise from the lack of these qualities.
We believe it is better and cheaper to work on prevention and good foundation than to try to fix and patch issues. We have clients that already spend a fortune to help their children with tutoring, psychology sessions, assessments and trial and error therapies when all of those focus on fixing and patching rather than focus on building a good and strong foundation. Most life coaching clients report a significant increase in income and savings, as well as quality of life. Otherwise, they would never have taken the second session.
There is no upfront payment. The payment is done per session and you schedule the following session as long as you feel you are getting value and it is well worth your investment. Because the time between sessions in the 5-session program increases as we move forward, paying for the sessions becomes easier over time, averaging one sessions per month, which is affordable for most people.
Your children need your presence more than your presents
I don’t have enough time
Parent coaching takes time. That is true. Apart from the sessions, you will have assignments to do at home to ensure you integrate the new learning into life and create permanent change. However, this investment of time is returned many times over. Although we have the same 24 hours a day as everyone else does, we can use our time better through prioritizing, focus, motivation and working well with others.
Stress makes us unproductive, so parent coaching frees us up to accomplish things by getting rid of stress. Knowing what is important to us and knowing how to get the important things done first makes us even more productive still. After completing their parent coaching, our parents report that their life is much more organised, so parent coaching has gained them time, which they use for enjoyment, for their family and friends, and for learning and developing their skills even further.
If time is an issue, you can always take our full day format, which covers all sessions in one day. This format is mainly suitable for parents who are short on time, live far away from Brisbane, need to finish a program fast for studying purposes or required to complete a parenting program in court cases.
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother, and the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to love their father
Why Should I Choose Be Happy in LIFE parent coaching?
The short answer is, “Because you want to be a happy parent and you want your kids to be happy, responsible, healthy, confident and successful, your want it fast and you want it to last“. A life coach can be someone who has done a weekend course or even a correspondence life coaching course without seeing one client face-to-face. We have coached other life coaches, counsellors and psychologists and opened up the lives of many people.
We offer the experience of working with thousands of happy clients over the last 26 years, so you know you will get good results.
In education, we need to focus less on giving and more on teaching our kids to take
Some life coaches tend to work on their clients’ problems by helping them to analyse and understand each problem and listening to them as they vent. This gives the clients relief, but only until the next time something comes up.
At Be Happy in LIFE, the focus is not on the problem but on the solution – a fast and lasting solution. We focus on a good future for our clients, starting with goal setting, through finding strengths, aligning of values and beliefs, all the way to choosing life’s purpose and finding meaning.
With our parenting clients, it guarantees they will gradually build the skills to keep themselves motivated and enjoy their parenting journey and whatever comes their way. Our parent coaching program is different from others in that we provide a manual that clients can use years after they complete their program and we teach them the mindset of a life coaches.
We have a long track record of success in all aspects of personal development and emotional intelligence. As of today, we have collected over 20,000 testimonials praising our life coaching, parenting classes, personal development workshops and presentation. If you would like to read some client testimonials, please click here.
The rules for parents are but three… love, limit, and let them be.
Elaine M. Ward
Here is a short video clip of Ronit Baras telling an inspiring story
Here’s what our clients say
29 July 2014
I first met Ronit about 6 or 7 years ago during a very difficult time in my life. I was at a crossroads in my life. I was feeling very unhappy. I was always confused as to why life was so hard & what was the meaning of it all. Big questions! This one particular day, I literally just googled “how to be happy”. I thought that happy people must know something that I don’t and I wanted some answers.
Ronit’s website popped up. I did some reading & made the appointment. It was exactly what I needed. Ronit taught me all about the different personalities of people & how we all learn, behave & react differently to different things. This helped me to understand my partner better & ultimately save our marriage.
Over the years I have been able to use all of the techniques that Ronit has taught me. I set a goal & see myself achieving it. With this, I have ran a half marathon, built my dream home, set up a successful business, created a happy marriage & have two beautiful daughters.
Most recently, I was having trouble with my daughter’s school teacher. She was being a bully to the kids & as it was my first experience with primary school for my kids, I wasn’t sure what to do. I contacted Ronit who was able to see me. Ronit gave her time to me generously. She didn’t rush me. We went over so many things in our time. Most importantly, I realised that the courage was within me to confront the school & ultimately have our daughter moved to a new class, where she has been extremely happy ever since.
Ronit has taught me to trust my inner compass. That the answers are within me if I just sit & listen. She will always tell me the truth & what is needed to be heard. Her perspective on things is a blessing. I would recommend her services to anyone who asks me.
I wish you well Ronit.
Thank you for everything.
I recently attended one of your seminars in Hawthorne in February and i cannot stop thinking about how much I have learnt and about what I have read on your website about happy life and how to achieve happiness in marriage. It is all so true but hard to implement at times.
Thank you kindly for your time and for being so inspiring to me. You have started changing my life.
Clearly presented, functional and easily understood. Don’t change anything. Highly recommended!
I didn’t realise how people (including myself) receive what is said and done differently. I do now
I’m happy to have learned that it is good to set rules & boundaries as I’ve always been worried about being too strict and so I became too soft. I would love to do this workshop again
Thank you very much! You have given me a lot to work on at home and much more positive outlook on improving
I loved the hugs and the social aspect… listening to other people’s life situation. I think I need to attend more sessions
I liked the consistency of the program. It was clear and positive
After 4 weeks of coaching, I have become less worried and stressed about things