Parenting children (especially parenting teens) is undoubtedly the most challenging adventure in a person’s life. Remember the first hours of being a parent? The unconditional love you had for this tiny new creature that did nothing but eat, sleep and cry, coupled with the enormous load of the new responsibility, from which there was no escape. A bit overwhelming, wasn’t it? For parents of teens, it can sometimes be even scary. Who can you turn to for parenting advice?
It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself
- Joyce Maynard
For many people, parenting their kids is one of the most fulfilling feelings in their life. Parents compromise many of their career opportunities to give their kids what they perceive as happiness, joy and love. Somehow, parenting our children is the most responsible thing most of us do in our life, yet we are doomed to experiment every day of our kids’ life, through trial and error, to find the formula for better parenting. Parenting has been going on since the beginning of humanity, but many parents still feel they must reinvent the wheel over and over again and count on some mysterious instincts they are supposed to have.
Many parents report of having difficulties balancing their time between their jobs, their partner and parenting their kids. They also struggle to make whatever resources they have meet their kids’ needs. This situation is reflected by their kids’ behaviour and state of mind, often causing unhappiness, frustration and self doubt. Teenage kids make parenting an even bigger challenge. Luckily, help is just around the corner…
The Be Happy in LIFE Better Parenting Skills Program
At Be Happy in LIFE, we believe that better parenting skills can be learned. Unfortunately, we don’t learn them in a structured manner during our life. Therefore, we react to uncomfortable situations, rather than having a clear vision of our desired family life. If you ask any parent in the world what they want for their kids, they will say “to be happy”. Happiness is, no doubt, the most valuable feeling we can give our kids. Yet, since being a role model is our greatest tool to pass on our beliefs to our kids, it will be very hard to pass on happiness until we are happy ourselves.
Many parents, overwhelmed by their parenting burden, feel disappointed and failing if their kids’ achievements and behaviour do not meet their expectations. One of the ways to handle these feelings is to justify the situation or blame themselves or someone else for the unhappy situation. We think this is a trap, which only reinforces the situation and increases the feeling of not being in control.
We believe that when parents are happy with themselves and clear about their beliefs and values, this will be reflected by their children, like little mirrors. Equipped with a coaching mentality and simple but powerful parenting tips to balance life, parents report they see a huge improvement in their parenting abilities and in their kids. In this program, we target your wellbeing as a parent, as well as your relationships with your kids, and focus on the connection between the two. This way, we allow your growth to inspire the growth of your kids without the need for them to attend the session.
Some of the challenges in parenting kids are strongly related to the parenting model the parents received from their own parents. Most of the time, this relationship included beliefs that are unhealthy, irrelevant and unsuitable 20 to 30 years after they were introduced. In the Be Happy in LIFE Better Parenting Skills Program, you’ll learn to identify the source of your beliefs, assess their impact on our life, examine their validity and eliminates them if you think they are “unhealthy”. In their place, you choose new beliefs that will promote relationships of support, love and good communication, which are so important for parents to have with their kids.
Our Better Parenting Skills Program is a future-focused coaching course for parents who want to break free from the common self fulfilling prophecy that “parenting kids is hard and that kids are terrible, cost lots of money and are never grateful for what their parents do for them”. It is the best program for parents who feel they are blaming or justifying, but understand they only project their fears and anxieties on their kids and are willing to take control over their own and their kids’ wellbeing.
In our Better Parenting Skills Program, we teach parents to coach themselves and their family towards positive thinking, self acceptance, appreciation, self confidence, love and caring. You’ll learn new ways, integrate them into your life and get the philosophy and the principles behind them in order to be able to use them when needed, long after you have completed the coaching course.
We bring into this program 23 years of education and life coaching experience, coupled with 20 years of parenting to 3 wonderful kids who are living proof of what is possible!
Our Better Parenting Skills Program is delivered in Brisbane and all around Australia to a single parent, a couple of parents or to a group of parents.
Here is a short video clip of Ronit Baras telling an inspiring story to
parents at a Better Parenting Skills Program:
Here’s what our clients say
I enjoyed all the sessions. Practically how to be positive…
Margaret, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2006, Brisbane, Australia
I enjoyed the informative and refreshing perspective and insight gained. Thank you! For everything!
David, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2005, Brisbane, Australia
Examples were so useful and put things in perspective
Allison, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I love it! It was great realising that if I change, I can affect others around me
Naomi, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2005, Brisbane, Australia
It gave me a new insight about a lot of things I didn’t know
Steve, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2006, Brisbane, Australia
I love my kids very much and I spend a lot of money on them. Attending this workshop was the best investment I made
Allan, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2005, Brisbane, Australia
What Is Parent Coaching?
Parent Coaching is delivered in two ways. One is a group experience, involving several parents, just like you, who come together weekly for 5 weeks to brighten up their parenting skills. Sessions are delivered in Brisbane and all around Australia (people have come to Brisbane for the 5-week parenting program from as far as the Sunshine Coast, Northern NSW and Toowoomba). The other is a series of 5 personal (one-on-one or one-on-two) sessions, covering the same essential parenting skills.
Your coach will get to know you and the other parents, will listen to what you have to say, will accept you, just the way you are, and will care about your family relationships as much as you will. Your coach will help you find where your communication with your kids may be stuck, where you may be sending confusing messages , and show you ways to create certainty and harmony at home. In a group, your group will also supports you and share their experiences for your benefit.
Your coach will also teach you some powerful and time-tested tools to “rearrange” your thoughts and feelings about parenting, about partnership and about kids and “make sense” out of them. These include
- Positive language (positive focus)
- Communication styles
- Love languages
- Beliefs and
- Rules & boundaries
Your coach will also push you to practice these tools and use them in your everyday life, so that you will get results.
What Will I Get from the Be Happy in LIFE Parenting Classes?
- A positive outlook on life
- A positive outlook on parenting
- A positive outlook on kids
- A great sense of achievement and of being a good parent to your kids
- Better stress management skills
- Confidence in your parenting abilities
- Improved focus, in parenting and in life
- A sense of belonging
- Better time management and coordination skills
- A good understanding of communication styles and how to use them in parenting your kids
- A good understanding of love languages and how to use them in parenting your kids
- Ability to spend time on yourself
- A good understanding of yourself and your feelings as a person and as a parent
- Useful techniques for managing your emotions
- Appreciation for the change process, not just the end result
- More understanding and acceptance of others, including your kids
- Coaching skills, which you can use in your everyday parenting with your kids
More of what our clients say
All that we did in the workshop was very relevant to our lives
Mary, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2005, Brisbane, Australia
I have done the workshop more than once, and every time I learn a new surprising thing
Merrilyn, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I liked the social aspect of the workshop. It’s fun meeting new people… I realised I’m normal… You’re right – I am OK
Maria, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2005, Brisbane, Australia
I loved the personal stories, it made it real, it was so practical and relevant to current life situations
Ali, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I loved doing the workshops with my partner. We improved the communication between us and we can already see it working on our children
Michelle, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
This is my third workshop with Be Happy in LIFE. I love getting new ideas and seeing them work
Courtney, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I always thought it takes longer to make a change… I couldn’t believe how fast the change at home happened
Claire, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I was very happy with your confidence and your quick response to every question
Lena, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2006, Brisbane, Australia
I liked the time management session in particular… I wonder how I got to be 40 years old and not able to just ‘get it’. I have a lot to learn. I’m looking forward for the next workshop”
- Grace, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2006, Brisbane, Australia
After 4 weeks, I have become less worried and stressed about things
Jo, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I liked the consistency of the program. It was clear and positive”
- Tony, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I loved the hugs and the social aspect… listening to other people’s life situation. I think I need to attend more sessions
Sal, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
Thank you very much! You have given me a lot to work on at home and much more positive outlook on improving
Sheryl, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2005, Brisbane, Australia
I’m happy to have learned that it is good to set rules & boundaries as I’ve always been worried about being too strict and so I became too soft. I would love to do this workshop again
Betty, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2007, Brisbane, Australia
I didn’t realise how people (including myself) receive what is said and done differently. I do now
Lisa, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2006, Brisbane, Australia
Clearly presented, functional and easily understood. Don’t change anything. Highly recommended!
Ted, Better Parenting Skills Program, 2006, Brisbane, Australia
Frequently asked questions
- What can I do if my partner doesn’t want to be coached?
- What is the difference between coaching and counselling?
- What’s special about the Be Happy in LIFE Better Parenting Skills Program?
- What is the difference between parenting kids and parenting teens?
- Is it easier to coach parents of young children or parents of teens?
- What is your professional background?
- How long is the Better Parenting Skills Program?
- Do we need to commit to a certain number sessions?
- How many sessions do we need?
- How long are the sessions?
- How often do you meet with the parents?
- Aren’t you afraid that if parents become their family’s coaches, they will not use your services anymore?
- Where do you meet the parents?
- What if I don’t live in Brisbane, in Queensland or even in Australia?
- How does phone coaching work?
- What do I do if I want to book the full day Better Parenting Skills Program?
What can I do if my partner doesn’t want to be coached?
This is quite a common situation. Unfortunately, many men aren’t keen on exposing their emotions. In our society, men are still taught to suppress their feelings, which makes them suspicious of the whole thing. Women are usually more comfortable seeking help. So, on the bright side, you’re normal!
Having said that, we can’t coach people who don’t want to be coached. In our program, client commitment is essential to change and success. The aim is for you and your partner to take control over your life and that starts by showing up and taking action. If your partner is not interested in life coaching, we recommend you get some coaching first. Your partner will soon notice the positive changes in you and want to get the same. Also, you will learn some techniques, which you can present in the safety of your home and get your partner comfortable with the process before he (or she) joins. Most importantly, your kids are a reflection of what happens with both parents, so when you treat them differently, they will show improvement already, even if your partner hasn’t changed.
What is the difference between coaching and counselling?
Counselling is a past-focused discipline. The counsellor identifies the reasons for the client’s feelings and behaviours. Often, clients come away from counselling with a label for themselves, which they then use to justify their actions and their inability to change.
In coaching, we don’t dwell on the reasons, because we want to avoid this negative outcome. Instead, we focus on the future, because no matter what happened in the past, you can make it better and learn to achieve, grow and be happy.
What’s special about the Be Happy in LIFE Better Parenting Skills Program?
Family life is based on each parent’s confidence and consistency, as they are projected through behaviours, as well as on the relationship between the parents. In times of stress, if a parent cannot rely on himself/herself or on the other parent, things start to fall apart for the children and they “inherit” the stress and “go nuts”. It so happens that many of the stressful situations are caused by mismatches in communication styles and other preferences of interaction.
We’ve done extensive research on communication styles, love languages and rapport building and added these powerful tools to our coaching toolkit. Time and time again, we see how these tools help our clients come to terms with who they are (“I’m OK”), who they’re dealing with (“You’re OK”) and how to relate effectively. They also learn to “store” positiveness and love during good times for “emotional winters”, when these reserves come in very handy.
Our program is holistic and long-term focused in its approach. We work with you to build your emotional intelligence and then teach you how to sustain and even enhance the positive changes in yourself and your partner. In a sense, you become your own and each other’s coaches. This combination ensures a healthy support structure for your change and growth long after the coaching is over.
When you go back home to the kids, you parent them from a place of calm and reassurance, and when they struggle, you can coach them towards their own solution, which empowers them, increases their confidence and makes them appreciate you and want to spend more time with you. Win-win all around!
What is the difference between parenting kids and parenting teens?
There are aspects of coaching that are the same when we coach parents of young kids and when we coach parents of teenagers. However, there are sections of the coaching that are different. The “Be Happy in LIFE Relationship Model” has a special section for parenting teens that is very valuable to parents and feedback show that understanding the model is provides great relief for parents of teens. The rules and boundaries are different for young kids than the rules required for teens. Since parents benefit a lot from examples and practical tips to establish good relationships with their young kids or teens, we make sure to tailor each program to the specific needs. This is why we prefer to coach groups of parents of young kids and groups of parents of teens separately.
When parents come for coaching wanting to have a happy family life and a good relationship with their kids or teenagers, they are half way to success. It is as easy to coach parents of young children as it is to coach parents of teens. However, parents of teens are usually more frustrated, so they have more pain to overcome, whereas parents of young kids have less of that pain, only because their kids are younger. In both cases, the skills learnt are valuable for many years to come, because you will be a parent to your kid or teen for as long as you live.
What is your professional background?
Ronit Baras has a Bachelor of Education in Special Education and a teaching certificate in several countries. She is is a Justice of Peace (in Queensland, Australia). She has a diploma in journalism and is an accredited Life Coach. Ronit specialises in learning difficulties and gifted kids. She has over 22 years of experience in education, using coaching methods to enhance the academic, social and emotional development of children. Ronit is a public speaker on language acquisition, teaching with games, the learning process, goal setting, time management, communication styles and various other coaching-related topics. She also has a column on education, parenting and life skills in a Melbourne-based newspaper and a regular contributor to Insight Magazine Ronit is a mother of 3 gorgeous kids. She currently lives in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia.
How long is the Better Parenting Skills Program?
The Better Parenting Skills Program is made up of 5 sessions. Most programs run once a week for 5 consecutive weeks. Other programs run for 10 weeks, meeting every other week. Organisations or groups of parents sometimes book the Better Parenting Skills Program for a full day and cover all the sessions in one go.
The group sessions will require commitment to the 5 sessions,mainly because of logistics involved and respect to other participants, but the individual coaching session will not. In many life coaching arrangements, you will be asked to commit to the full program and pay for it in advance. We believe that your commitment is essential to your success, but we’re confident in our ability to give tremendous value to you with our coaching without you paying in advance. We want you to come to the sessions because you see the value, not because we hold the money you’ve paid in advance. In our coaching agreement, you commit only to doing your best for yourself and paying for the sessions you receive. You may stop at any stage. We have many clients who see so much benefit in the parenting program that after they finish, they ask to start the Be Happy in LIFE individual coaching program.
How many sessions do we need?
That depends. The Better Parenting Skills Program has 5 modules. We recommend for parents to experience them all, but we leave the decision to the parents. Most of our clients choose to continue for additional growth.
How long are the sessions?
Sessions can take one-and-a-half to two hours.
How often do you meet with the parents?
Group programs are scheduled once a week for 5 consecutive weeks.
Personal programs start by having a session once a week. Over time, however, we shift towards one session every fortnight or even longer, to build the clients’ confidence in their ability to maintain their change independently. You can choose whatever gap that feels comfortable for you, and you will naturally extend the time between sessions as you feel more and more confident in your parenting skills. On average, the entire program takes 2-3 months.
In-between sessions, you can keep in touch with us via email or phone.
Aren’t you afraid that if parents become their family’s coaches, they will not use your services anymore?
Not at all. We think that dependency contradicts control and responsibility. We feel that we are successful when our clients have established a coaching mentality and are masters of communication. We are happy to have more people who become part of the Be Happy in LIFE family, spreading happiness, love, caring, acceptance and success in our world.
Where do you meet the parents?
We live in Brisbane, the capital of Queensland in Australia. Parents come to us from NSW, from the Sunshine Coast and from Toowoomba. Some of our parenting programs run in schools, both primary and high schools. The full day program is delivered all around Australia.
What if I don’t live in Brisbane, in Queensland or even in Australia?
Most Parents not living close to Brisbane (Australia), either organise themselves with a group of other parents and book the full day program or do the program individually or as a couple over the phone or on Skype.
How does phone coaching work?
Your coach will send you the session material by email and will ask you to print it and have it in front of you when you have your session. Your coach will call you at the scheduled time and will guide you through the session. Extra resources will be sent to by mail. This arrangement is the best combination of flexibility and interactive impact.
What do I do if I want to book the full day Better Parenting Skills Program?
To arrange a full-day Better Parenting Skills Program, please contact us.