Helping You Achieve Success and Happiness!

I chose to be a coach so I can give of my time and emotional energy to people and share my feeling of abundance with the world that way. Other people make this happen in other professions.

I believe that the concept of giving is easy to adopt when we are in a state of abundance - when we have spare resources. Abundance is not necessarily having a lot, but realizing that by giving, we do not have less. You see, a flower does not lose anything by sharing its beauty and wonderful scent.

Unfortunately, many people live in a state, so they hang on to what they have in fear that giving may put them at a disadvantage, when in fact, when we give some things for the sake of giving - in order to make someone else feel better, for example - we receive a great feeling and contribute to making this world a better place for ourselves later on.

I want to share with you some stories about giving and sharing.

I often work with kids and try to help them realize they have the ability to make a huge difference in the world around them just by giving. I think that investing in them when they are young will pay back big time by the time they become adults.

Last week, I ran another workshop with the message of "Giving is receiving". I split the kids into groups and gave them an assignment to pass through a Hula Hoop as a group. Later, one of the more successful groups said another group had stolen ideas from them, as if they had copyrights on their ideas and if the other group was successful, it meant that they were less successful. For some unknown reason, they felt they were in some kind of a competition and competitions do not go hand in hand with giving and sharing.

A few months ago, I ran a professional development workshop for teachers at a primary school. The topic was the teachers' emotional intelligence. At first, the teachers who expected to have just another presentation on pedagogy and curriculum planning looked at me suspiciously, but at the end of the day, they all came for hugs and I felt really good about myself. At the end of the day, the principal said to me "There was a lot to take from today. If the teachers only take one thing, I will be very happy". It made me wonder what this thing may be.

Two week later, I had another meeting with the principal and while we were preparing for our meeting, we went into the staff room, where two teachers were having lunch and others were fixing some posters. Sally, one of the teachers, said to me, "Ronit, you should have told us not to approach our partners with happiness stuff when they come back tired from work".

She was right. I never said anything like that, but I knew she wanted to tell me something.

"Why? What happened to you?" I asked her as other teachers joined us.

"I came home pumped and full of energy after the workshop and had lots of motivation. That evening, when my husband came home from work, I told him about the happiness list. He was grumpy and asked me to leave him alone. My list was huge by then and I was dying to know what his list would look like, but he would not even listen".

The teacher next to her said, "Maybe after a shower and a glass of wine..."

Everyone giggled.

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, the next day, I told my kids about the happiness list, gave each of them a notebook and told them to write the things that made them happy and leave their list in a visible place so everyone could see it. At first, they wrote the big things, like you said, but for about 4 days, they helped each other find more things and every other sentence we said was, 'This makes me happy' or 'I did this for you because it was on your happy list and I wanted to make you happy' or 'I'm happy to do it'. It was very joyful in the house. The kids and I bonded so well within a short time by talking about happy things that on the fifth day, my husband said he was feeling left out and wanted to make a list too".

"Ooooooh", said everyone, "And did he?"

"My daughter gave him a notebook and made him sit until he finished writing 100 things that made him happy", Sally said in a proud voice.

"How old are your kids?" I asked.

"My daughter is 16 and the boys are 19 and 21", she said.

Everyone got excited. The principal smiled at me proudly. Sally had taken something important from the workshop for sure.

I looked at them smiling. The teachers were all excited and gathered around Sally, feeling so close and so happy. You are probably wondering what I received from it. Well, Making other people happy is on my happy list.

In the end, only kindness matters
- Jewel

The day after, I had another professional development workshop for another group of teachers and the ripple continued.

It was 4pm and I finished packing my presentation after running a full day. I taught a group of 40 teachers the importance of touch and planting good and happy seeds of beliefs in their students' minds.

As I packed, everyone came to give me a hug. I was pumped and very happy. I was having a good day. An older teacher, who had not spoken much throughout the day, talked to other teachers and smiled to me every time she passed next to me, but did not give me a hug. She was the only one who did not hug me at the end of the day. I tried to tell myself that convincing 39 people we all need 12 hugs a day was good enough, even if I have missed one person. After a long day on my feet and doing my best to stay fully focused, all I wanted was to go to the supermarket, pick Eden up from the bus station and go home.

When everything was inside the car and I started driving, the older teacher came out of the building. I smiled and opened the car window.

"Have I given you a hug?" I asked.

"No, you haven't", she said, sounding disappointed.

I turned off the engine, unbuckled my seatbelt, got out of the car and gave her a hug.

"Thank you!" she said and started asking me personal questions about her son. During the break, she had approached me, but saw I had been talking about communication styles with 6 other teachers and had not felt comfortable asking her questions, because they were too personal.

My supermarket time was disappearing quickly, but I knew it was my chance to be kind and I stood in the driveway with her for half an hour to answer all her questions. She thanked me for the day and for my answers, gave me another hug and I drove away happy, knowing I had helped one more person feel good.

A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives roses
- Chinese Proverb

Just before the entrance to the shopping center, I stopped at the light. Right beside me, I saw a black car with lots of smiley stickers. I was tired and that made me smile. In the car was a woman with lots of tattoos and piercings. She was talking to a 9-year-old girl sitting next to her. Every time I looked at the car, I smiled.

"I should tell her I like her car", I said to myself.

"But what would I say?" I answered myself.

"That she has a great car".

"She can't hear me", I debated in my head.

"Maybe I can say it in sign language".

"How can I attract her attention? She's talking to the girl in the car".

"I'll beep".

"No, if I beep, everyone around will turn to see what's happened" (people in Australia never beep).

"So what? It will give them an opportunity to see her car and smile too".

So I beeped. The tattooed woman turned her head with a suspicious look.

I signed with my hands and mouthed, "I love your car".

She smiled. They she said something to the girl and looked at my car with the Be Happy in LIFE sign on it and smiled again. I felt good. When the light turned green, she waved at me with a big smile and drove away.

Kindness is the language,
which the deaf can hear and the blind can see
- Mark Twain

As I drove into the supermarket parking, I thought to myself, "What an easy way to make people feel good". Do you know how many times I look at beautiful people and feel embarrassed to say, "You are so beautiful"? I wondered why.

I stopped the car, put on my red shawl so I would not freeze next to the refrigerators and entered the supermarket. It was the end of two full days of workshops. My feet ached and I was exhausted.

"I want to take my shoes off", I said to myself.

"That's not nice to walk barefoot in the supermarket, especially not when I'm dressed up like this", I countered.

"I have a huge shopping list and Eden is going to be at the bus station in an hour. I don't want to be in these shoes for another hour. I'm taking them off and that's that", I decided.

So I took my shoes off and put them in the trolley. The supermarket was full of people and everyone who passed me by and saw me barefoot gave me an understanding smile.

I finished my shopping quickly and stood at the checkout, thinking I would go straight home to put my feet up and ask Gal to pick Eden up later. I called Eden to tell her I would not wait when she told me she was already on her way and by the time I put my things in the car, she would be at the bus station, which is a minute's drive from the supermarket. My lucky day!

I pushed the trolley into the parking. A woman walked towards me, talking on her mobile phone. She stopped for a second in front of me, still holding her phone to her ear, and said, "You look so beautiful". Then she kept walking and talking.

I smiled. That made me feel great!

I turned and looked at her. "Do I know her?" I asked myself.

"No, I don't and she doesn't know me either", I thought, "But what she said still made me feel good".

"Why would she say something like that?" I wondered.

Do you think I had summoned her through the Collective Consciousness with my giving in the form of hugs, attention and compliments to others?

I am sure I had.

Be kind. It has a tendency to ripple and come back twofold.

May the force be with you!

Hugs,

 

Be Inspired by this story of Personal Liberation that will Motivate You Get Up and Own Your Life

Free Yourself and Your Teen from the Generation Gap with this Great Inspirational Gift

Bookmark this page: