The amazing story of creation has one major flaw:
Kids don’t come with manuals!
Are you too having trouble understanding your teen? Don’t worry! You’re not alone…
For the last 24 years I have travelled the world speaking with parents about their troubled relationships with their teenage children and helping them to lead happier, healthier lives…
and you know what?
It doesn’t matter where I am in the world, the concerns and worries of parents are much the same, irrespective of what country I am in!
My work as a life coach means I work with parents and teens to try and help them build strong family relationships, and to teach them both about emotional intelligence:
- to understand their own emotions and provide practical solutions to their problems
- to help them work out their differences, and
- to show them that there are ways to work harmoniously together without either party losing their identity or independence.
After all, isn’t that what we all want for our children – independence and the ability to build their own life and their own identity?
It’s just that – as parents – we want them to do it safely, without the increasingly harmful influences that fill their world…
but sometimes they just don’t see it that way!
Teens want their independence, they want their own way, they want to make their own decisions and…
they don’t believe you understand their world!
And I can honestly tell you that it’s the same the world over… and, if the truth be known - you probably believed the same when you were a teenager!
You know that lecturing and remonstrating didn’t work with you; and the nagging, ranting and raving, screaming and shouting just made you more determined than ever to have it your own way.
And so it is with your own children.
The good news is: there is a better way!
And I’m sure you already know about it, but you have probably forgotten…
My name is Ronit Baras. I am a Life Coach, a teacher and an author.
I am also a parent – with three children of my own. My children were born in different parts of the world, and despite their varied upbringing, they have grown up with the same doubts, the same misconceptions and the same problems as every other normal, intelligent, inquisitive, hormonal teenager who is growing in confidence by the day, and struggling to understand the world and their place in it.
So I believe I have some idea of what you might be going through.
Your situation is not new, and you are not alone in your dilemma
If you can believe the writings that have come down to us from history, then the situation has probably been the same for centuries. The Italians have a quaint proverb
Little children – headache. Big children – heartache!
And it was the famous American author, Mark Twain, who wrote:
When I was a boy, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in just seven years! (Atlantic Monthly 1874)
Or we can go back even further in history to AD1274:
The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint… As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behaviour and dress. (Peter the Hermit)
And how about this from the early Greek philosophers in the 4th Century BC?
What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders. They disobey their parents. They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them? (Plato)
Or this, from the 8th century BC:
I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on the frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words…
When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly disrespectful and impatient of restraint. (Hesiod)
So you see, that’s almost 3000 years of parental discontent! Your problems are nothing new, but the question remains…
What can we do about it?
Understanding teenagers is like trying to unravel the universe. Every one of them is different and every one reacts in different ways, but the fact remains – they are all facing the same problems!
- Do you want a better relationship with your teen?
- Are you shocked at how troubled and stressed teenagers seem to be nowadays?
- Are you worried about the increasing incidence of teen violence and depression?
- Are you worried about alcohol, accidents, drugs and sexual exposure?
- Are you concerned your teen may be suffering from obesity or anorexia?
- Are you unhappy with the amount of time your teen spends in front of the TV, or on the computer or their mobile phone?
- Do you wish you could play a more active role in supporting your teenager?
- Do you want to help them find strength and confidence?
- Do you just want them to have a happy, healthy, balanced life?
If you answered ‘YES’ to any one of these questions,
then this may just be the most important article you read in your life!
I wish I had this book when I was a teenager and I also wish I’d had it when my children were younger…
Sandra Hogan, Mother of three, Consultant and Author, Australia
Years of experience have taught me that one of the best ways to help young people make the right decisions is to give them the tools and knowledge to do so. We do this by telling them stories – stories of our own lives and experiences; and by reading them stories of others and the situations the characters found themselves in.
This is nothing new. Before writing was invented, story telling was the only way for people to pass on their history, their beliefs, and their wisdom… and you’ve been telling your children stories ever since they first sat on your knee – and yes, they loved it! People love to listen to stories!
Isn’t this where you and your children learned:
- not to trust strangers? (Hansel and Gretel)
- not to accept people on face value? (Little Red Riding Hood)
- to look beyond the outside to see the good in people? (Beauty and the Beast)
- not to eat food that is given to you by strangers (Snow White)
You see what I mean?
By exposing our children to appropriate and desirable behaviour through stories, we are training them in the most entertaining, non-confrontational way.
Knowledge and understanding learned through stories can help young people make more balanced decisions, but more importantly, the decisions they make are theirdecisions!
They want to be independent and they want to make their own decisions, so we have to provide them with the tools and the knowledge to enable them to do so.
We all make decisions based on our own knowledge and experience. So where do you find those stories to help our children navigate through today’s challenges?
- How do you help your children deal with peer pressure? (Boje’s Magic Powder)
- How do you teach your children to have the courage to be themselves? (Be Special, Be Yourself)
- How do you teach them to overcome adversity? (Curly Lines with Flowers)
- How do you show them that they need to be responsible for their own health (Boje’s Magic Powder)
- That you can’t please everyone (Be Special, Be Yourself)
- That circumstances make people see things differently (The Building of Life)
- That there may be no one ‘correct’ point of view, just people (The Building of Life)
- That there is always help if you look for it (The Guidance Counsellor)
- That grown-ups have problems and need love too (Love Me, Love Me Not).
You’re probably not familiar with these stories, but that’s because I wrote them myself – in response to the many, many requests that I received from thousands of people whom I have counselled and trained over the last 22 years.
I had to write the stories myself, because I could not find appropriate literature that gave the messages that the parents I was counselling, wanted to hear. The problems their teens were encountering were not the same as those being portrayed on the soaps on TV – and the solutions that were being offered there were certainly not always realistic, and, let’s face it, television dramas seldom reflect real life. Certainly some of the messages – and many of the solutions – are not what we want for our children!
“Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers“ is a collection of 8 stories that focus on the problems teenagers face today. They are teens in believable situations… and they offer real solutions and practical strategies for coping with the pressures your children are likely to face as they navigate their path to adulthood.
If you want to order your own hard copy of “Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers“, click the secure order button below.
“I Like the Ideas Very Much!”
The book showed adults and teenagers that we need to appreciate who we are and what we have and feel free to show love to our loved ones…
Annique Goldberg, Mother of two and World Traveller, Australia
Of course, while I was writing these stories, many people told me:
“Don’t waste your time. Teens don’t buy books.”
“Go to the teen section in any bookstore – it’s the smallest section there. Give it up.”
Not to be discouraged (but not wishing to ignore what could have been very good advice), I went into every book store in my area and talked to the managers in every one of them and, what do you know, they were right. The teen section in all the book shops was so small – it was devastating!
The adult sections were big, the children’s sections were huge – but the teen sections were almost non-existent!
It really seemed like investing in teens was not very popular. But I then realized that the reason the teen book section is small is not because teens do not read (although we could all benefit from reading more); but because they spend much of their time sitting in front of their computers.
Whilst looking at the screen for so many hours a day, they read a lot! It’s just that they may not be reading exactly what you want them to read, but just the same – they read a lot!
And that was my answer:
“Why not give them quality material to read on their computer?”
So that is why you can also purchase “Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers” as a digital eBook, downloadable onto your computer right now. Your teen could be reading these inspirational, entertaining, informative, real-life stories right now, within just minutes of you placing your order.
And what’s more, these stories will be on their computer, right before their eyes, in the place where they spend most of their leisure time these days.
“Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers” is 161 pages of responsible, inspiring, motivated and well-balanced teens!
And believe me, this is easy parenting! – Lessons gleaned from all of those parents around the world, whom I have helped over the past 22 years.
Socrates once said:
Employ your time in improving yourself by other men’s writings so that you shall come easily by what others have laboured hard for
Here is your opportunity to cash in.
We face peer pressure every day, so it’s cool to read a book that goes against everything people look for.
Be happy with yourself, you are the only person you will answer to, in the end. If you have enough determination, you can do anything.
Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers is on of my top 10 book list. I love it!
There is really hope!
Stephanie Cook, 16 Years Old
As a parent, I know first hand how important and challenging parenting teens can be.
And as an educator and a life coach, I know that what teens are exposed to at this special age has a dramatic affect on:
- who they will become, and
- their relationship with us, their parents.
It is important that we seize the moment.
With our hectic lifestyles, it is essential that we expose them to the right attitudes. And what better way to do it than by sharing the inspirational and motivational stories that come to life in “Be Special, Be Yourself - for Teenagers”?
In just a few minutes, you will know you have given your teen the best possible start. As well as receiving an inspirational gift of love from you, they will also be exposed to the values that will shape their character and build their self-esteem and confidence for the rest of their lives!
What we give our teens NOW will ultimately shape their future.
Take a peek inside ”Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers”
STORY #1: Bojé’s Magic Powder - Discover what teens feel about their body … what they think about their health …why they are so preoccupied with diets …what will happen if you do not put a stop to it … (starting on page 9)
“We all diet, we don’t really know why”
STORY #2: Beauty Queen - What teens think about beauty … the truth about beauty contests … how teens survive pressure from home and from their friends … what kinds of friends are good for your kid …what is really important to your teen … (see for yourself from page 28)
“I felt bad at the end, but I would have done the same thing”
STORY #3: Be Special, Be Yourself - Find out what teens think about peer pressure …what motivates teens …what it means for them to be socially accepted … what are the dangers of the “disease to please” … why school is not only about academic achievements … the secret to being true to yourself … (revealed from page 37)
“It’s the same for me. It is so hard, so hard to be me, I don’t even know what it means…”
STORY #4: Curly Line with Flowers (Parents and Teens’ Favorite!) – Uncover the truth about learning difficulties … how learning difficulties translate to social difficulties … who else has difficulties … what never to say to your child … how to turn every difficulty into an advantage … the best way to help your teen … how to be an inspiring role model … (learn on page 47)
“Difficulties are only opportunities in disguise”
“There is lots of help out there and we are not alone”
STORY #5: The Building of Life - How teens see responsibility … how their personal experiences determine their perception … the best and easiest way to experience social justice without the headaches of reality …what politics has to do with justice … the best way to make teens aware of their social surroundings … what they will never learn in school, but everyone expects them to know … (look at page 77)
“It was a good way to look at justice”
“It seemed so easy at first … do you mean voting is that complicated”
STORY #6: The guidance counsellor - Why teens have difficulty trusting adults …why teens are at the mercy of grown ups … how can adults help teens … why do we need to have a support system to help teens at school … why the reputation teens have is not true for all of them … what goes on in the head of an abused teenager … (find out from page 94)
“It was about handling bullying through inner strength”
“Some adults are OK”
STORY #7: Love Me, Love Me Not (Parents and Teens’ Favorite!) – How hard it is to be a teen … why what they wear is not a representation of who they are inside … how academic achievements have nothing to do with their hairstyle … what they think of their teachers … why parents are human too … love wanted at all ages … what fears we have … why when facing a difficulty, your teen needs you more … what goes on in their head when they are not careful … a good introduction to adulthood … (page 101)
“Grown ups are just human”
“I loved this story and I asked my mum to read it too”
STORY #8: Biography - What never to keep away from your teen … everything you think your teen can see, but they really can’t … secrets you should never hide from your teen … what will happen if you do not tell your teen how much you love him or her … how families get close in the face of adversity and difficulty … (read from page 144)
“We should all do an autobiography. I know I should”
“Keep Trying, No Matter What”
Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers says you might try something and fail, but trying it differently will give you different results. It beautifully shows that not everyone who looks perfect has a perfect life. Keep trying, no matter what.
The greatest message to parents and teenagers is ‘Never give up. There’s always a way through’.
I loved it!
Jennifer Masterton, 16 Years Old, Australia
And easy parenting!
You can even order the digital eBook and hard copy book together for a special deal.
Start reading your digital eBook within minutes, share it with your teen(s), get a copy of the printed book and save $10.
By exposing your children to situations that are similar in nature to what they are going through, you will be giving them the knowledge and understanding to help them make a more balanced decision.
“Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers” is a great way to guide young people, and to allow them to make their own decisions – based on scenarios that are familiar to them.
By purchasing “Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers”, you may just be saving your child’s future – maybe even their life.
It is a sad fact that one in three teenage deaths in Australia is a direct result of suicide.
That’s a lot of misunderstanding!
This is such a small price to invest in your child’s future. Your teen deserves the opportunity to be informed, to be given the tools, to be ready to cope – so they can be, the very best they can be!
“I Can’t Express How Much I Love It!”
I’m sitting here on the plane. I’m sure I’m getting some strange looks ’cause the tears are streaming down my face… I just finished your book – I didn’t put it down once, not even to eat. After each story, I kept thinking ‘No, that one is definitely my favourite’ until I realised that they all were just amazing!
I really liked the one about dyslexia. I can’t believe you wrote the whole story like that but then each section the spelling improved. It is wonderful!!
I really can’t express how much I loved it!
The story about the teacher whose dad wanted her to be a doctor had a huge impact on me, as did the one where the teacher set up the building in the classroom… But the last story, what can I say? I just cried and cried!
Ronit, you are an absolutely wonderful and inspiring person… and a brilliant writer…
Tina R., High School Teacher, Australia
I wish you every success as a parent, and I wish both you and your children a long, rewarding and happy life together, and a fruitful relationship.
Remember to tell them “Be Special – Be Yourself!”
We live in a world of plenty, so why are you having so many problems?
Our world today is richer, more luxurious, more educated, more technologically advanced that at any other time in our history… and yet -
In this world of plenty, we have record levels of teenage depression, teenage suicide, dysfunctional families, children on the street, and stress within families that is tearing them apart… You have to ask:Is there something you can do to make it easier for your teen?Is there a way to give you both a better life?
How do you convince your teen that:
- you really do understand what is going on in their life, that
- you really do care, and
- that you do, really, understand what it is like to be teenager.
People haven’t really changed in thousands of years… its just the way we do things that is different. So, here’s your chance to make a difference!
There really is a way that you can we show your teen that you are with them all the way; and supporting them, no matter what.
Simply purchase this book for their education, their entertainment, their overall well-being. You will be happy that you did. $39.80 is such a small investment in their future.
And if you are not completely satisfied, we will give you your money back. No questions asked.
If you can live just one day more harmoniously with your troubled teen, your investment will have been worth it.